It's not a smart topic to discuss in an unedited format when you're not great at articulating yourself.she's not cooking anything objectionable, is paeodophilia such an absurdly dangerous topic that we simply *shouldn't* talk about it?
On a serious note, I believe anyone who has a genuine attraction to children has a responsibility to proactively seek out a resolution, preferably involving sterilisation to kill their sex drive. Otherwise you end up with the twitter MAPs who feel comfortable with feelings they 100% should not be comfortable about, because they can pat themselves on the back for not offending yet. Even people with normal attractions toward grown adults can become unhinged without an outlet, see the murder/rapist incels, so I don't believe someone who is into kids won't eventually hurt a child.There probably is a way without the preferable bullet to the head if they haven't done anything. However, that runs the risk of them DOING IT while getting help. So, you really can't win.