Don't disagree, just feel like if she's been left out of the loop its not a good call and waiting the day it would take for her to wake up and give her input on it before pulling the trigger would have been better for everyone. Cause now there is the off-chance she comes back, see's that it's happened, disagrees with the ban and unbans him, and that would only encourage the behavior instead of giving her a chance to address it first.The problem with that here is that making a huge donation along with the confession is common groomer behaviour, because no shit someone's going to be softer on a guy who just gave them $500. You need someone in a more neutral position to address it since they're the ones who'll immediately realise that something's not right.