You speak from a point of personal ignorance. You don't know what it is like to be a public figure, and have a huge number of people constantly repeating the same thing to you all the time. You don't know how exhausting and mentally taxing it is.
Let's just imagine for a second that you had a missing arm. It's annoying and awkward, but you can live with it. Now imagine that everyone else you meet, almost without exception,
must ask you why you only have one arm, and when you tell them, they go away and tell all their friends. But their friends either don't believe them, or don't believe you told them the whole story. So they start accusing you of lying about why you're missing an arm. Then more of their friends who have never even met you start talking about 'that weird one-armed liar' they keep hearing about.
Eventually you get sick and tired of explaining to individuals why you have a missing arm, so you make a big post about it on social media that explains exactly why you have a missing arm, and why you don't like constantly answering questions about it. Then you have to watch as the comments fill up with people dissecting every word of your big post to figure out what lies you told according to
their interpretation of why you are missing an arm, and declaring your explanation as yet more proof you are a disingenuous liar.
But in the end you deal with it for a while. You're able to cope, tune out the voices, etc. After a few months, you decide to donate to a foundation that buys prosthetics for amputees. Immediately when the public hears about it, the foundation is bombarded by questions asking if they know 'the real story' behind your missing arm, if you divulged any extra hints as to the truth of why you're missing an arm, or why the foundation is dealing with an obvious faker who actually
has two arms, but is just very good at pretending they're missing an arm for personal gain.
Every single time, you have to explain the context to the new people asking you these questions. And you have to always be polite, reasonable, kind and respectful. If you show emotion, the new people will think you're blaming them or lumping them in with the conspiracy theorists when their intentions were obviously innocent, meaning that you must have
something to hide after all.
Meanwhile, every time you slip up and don't give a
impeccably perfect, exactly precise and totally sincere explanation, it is recorded by hundreds of separate cameras and added to an everlasting record that totally, definitely proves these incidents are all connected, which will be wheeled out to convince newcomers of the 'real truth' every time the subject of your missing arm is brought up anywhere within earshot of anyone who is so much as slightly sceptical of your explanation.
How long could you deal with that? How long could you take being told 'look it was an isolated incident, I don't see why you are so upset', or 'clearly you're the one with the problem', or any variation thereof?
This is just a thumbnail sketch of the kind of pressure and stress you deal with as a public figure. Even
I have to deal with this, as the most niche of niche internet microcelebrities. Hell,
@thhrang has to deal with this
by proxy, just because he dared defend the evil paedophile Pippa Pipkins.
This literally never works. There is no faster way to make a man
hate a woman with profound, irrational intensity than her 'firing back at him'. Women are supposed to be submissive to men, roll over when attacked, and beg for mercy so the man can either kick them while they're down and tell them 'lol see bitch you deserved it', or benevolently offer his magnanimous hand of redemption to her and earn the applause of his male audience for showing the dumb airhead her place in life.
The kind of men who attack women are profoundly pathetic, feeble individuals who cannot fight their corners in an arena with other men, so they take out that frustration and feelings of inferiority on women instead. A woman 'firing back' at them simply tells them and all their friends that they need to
break that bitch as hard as possible so her resistance doesn't make their other victims feel they might be able to stand up to them as well.
Also, this is not a female thing either. Most men don't banter either. They get upset, it's just not socially expected for them to back down. I can tell you from decades of experience that when two men start 'bantering' on the internet, there is a roughly 80% chance they would viciously hurl themselves at each other if they were in close proximity in real life and fight until one of them was cowering like a dog. Humans simply do not have a biological 'both sides have said their pieces and came out equally good' outlook. One side wins, one side loses, then the loser goes away to lick their wounds and plot how to strike back. That's how the psychology works; only high levels of self-awareness, introspection and moral principles break that cycle.