I didn't really complain when it happened in Starfield, just rolled my eyes, because it can make sense in the context of the world, it's a progressive and largely bland post-apocalyptic future, right? I'm still not happy with it. Fallout shouldn't really have pronoun garbage but it's still not impossible to work in, in some really far-out way in a post-apocalypse dystopia where society has broken down, very much similar to how Cyberpunk does it, it could be a good critique of declining social norms.
Elder Scrolls should absolutely say Male/Female... it's medieval fantasy with real racism/xenophobia whatever still very prevalent and that's why it's beloved. I want to be turned away at town gates for being a "lesser" race. I want Altmer to sneer at me and try to genocide. Nobody in that world is trying to change their pronouns or demolish gender norms. It makes zero sense in the context of the world and should never, ever be included. Boggles the mind why they decided to.
Though they did touch up the character creator, so I'm hoping that if they hadn't had to change some things there, it wouldn't have been changed. Bethesda isn't very far into the woke stuff from what they've presented so far, they're very lukewarm and boomer in how they go about it. Not excusable, but they have no bite.