Jesus christ shut the fuck up woman. Even moreso because this isn't even about vtubing, then why say anything? If some shit is going down between people that has nothing to do with vtubing, but it's causing people to distance themselves in the sphere because they're just afraid of getting hit in the clout, just don't fucking comment! You have no fucking imperative to answer even if it is your business, and everyone in the adjacency to this has done nothing but tell everyone it's not our business, nor theirs, but they KEEP FUCKING TALKING ABOUT IT!
If you say nothing, then no one knows. The easiest way to stop a narrative from spinning out of control is to simply never leave a thread that can be spun. Anything that suggests the existence of unknown knowledge is a thread, and the internet is comprised entirely of cats. Vagueposting is the worst of this to engage in, and is itself a very vibrant and tasty looking thread. Everyone is going to want to pounce on that and give it a tug and the second you post some limp-wrist "Oh this thing is happening but I can't say anything", you revoke your right to complain about the thread being tugged because you laid down a wad of thread in front of an infinite army of cats.
I know a few women and men that still dress like that. There are some everywhere. They are broadly not okay, but can be fun, just make sure to use a text app you can delete afterwards.