Most people tend to be more trusting of the people being obsessively stalked than of the obsessive stalkers, yes.
Charlotte kept everything anonymous. Twitter rants, but with no names or E-Mails mentioned. No attempt at "cancellation" there. Meanwhile, kestraline repeatedly mentioned her by name in multiple discords and directly solicited
@The Proctor to cover Charlotte on stream. It was only after Proctor contacted her that this changed.
The cum tablet isn't an out of context factoid, either. It is merely the exclamation mark at the end of a longwinded sentence of autism and obsession. I really don't think Proctor or anyone else would just go "Ew, ban this guy at the word of this woman" if it was just "cum tablet" with nothing else, with no preceding history of escalation.
But there
is a history of escalation. Which Proctor only stumbled upon
because kestraline himself brought it up to him and even then he needed to specifically contact Charlotte on his own initiative to get the details.
Yeah, we don't have pictures of the tablet drenched in cum (just the tablet itself, unused). It's hearsay and not legally admissable. But most people here aren't giving Charlotte the benefit of the doubt because she has two X chromosomes.
Most people here are giving her the benefit of the doubt because bluntly, the cum tablet, sent
after explicitly being told to keep it and just leaving her alone (see
@reinigen's post earlier), fits the pattern of a stalker's escalation spiral.