God who fucking cares about someone being "ace"?
I get the whole "coming out" thing for gays, so people know what's going on when they suddenly have a same sex partner, but like, "I just don't wanna fuck" isn't that big of a lifestyle difference? Plenty of people are single for all kinds of reasons, there's no elephant in the room to address with it, you're just desperately grasping for a spot on the snowflag flag.